Reflections on life, marriage, and a young woman who is constantly learning how much there will always be to learn!

Thursday, August 18, 2005

Encouragement from Mom and FlyLady

Dear Erin,
I read this and thought....oh boy...this is ME!! But, I am learning, how-be-it ever so slowly, to use the 15 minute concept and that things don't have to be "perfect". I thought you might feel encouraged reading this as well! Hope you are having a great you lots!

FLYLADY: Who Decided I am WRONG????

Dear Friends: Over the years I have heard so many different versions of "doing things the RIGHT way"

Examples: If you had done it right the first time, you wouldn't have to do it again

If you don't take time to do it right, when will you find the time to do it over

These are just two examples but what I want to know is who the heck determined the "RIGHT" way for everyone? Who decided for all of us that here is a RIGHT way and a WRONG way? Why do we feel compelledto follow the RIGHT way and feel like we have failed when we don't? Lastly, who decided for me that I do things WRONG?

FlyLady has shared one of the most valuable thoughts to help combat the "RIGHT" way thinkers:"Housework done incorrectly still blesses your family" What this means is that no matter how you do a task, just doing something instead of nothing, still blesses your family. Instead of using the old stinking thinking of " I don't have time to do it right so I will wait to do anything until I have time to do it the right way", so the piles grow, the dust gets thicker, the floor stays unswept etc. Just doing something, even if it is not the "right" way is better than nothing.

This is where the magic of 15 minutes also comes into play for all of us. The days of our grandmothers spending every Saturday morning scrubbing and polishing are over. We do not have to spend our time slaving. We just need to set our timers for 15 minutes and GO! We do not need to clean our homes, the old fashioned, traditional, RIGHT way. We do it the FLY way! Routines and 15 minutes! When faced with the kitchen floor that needs mopping, instead of putting it off for another time because you don't have time to do it the "right" way, set the timer for 15 minutes and just do the best you can within that time. You might just find that your very own "right" way is how YOU do it, not anyone's else's way, you know someone's version of the "right" way. I always say how surprised you will be at what you can accomplish in 15 minutes.

When faced with the living room carpet that needs to be vacuumed, don't put it off because you don't have time to move all the furniture and kill yourself doing it the "right" way. Set that timer and just vacuum what you can. Again, with both of these examples you have gotten more accomplished by doing something, then putting it off and having to live with the mess because you had the stinking thinking of not having the time to do it "RIGHT". Give yourself permission not to follow someone else's version of RIGHT. Allow yourself to bless you and your family 15 minutes at a time. YOU decide what is RIGHT forYOU! Now grab that timer and go prove that you can do anything for 15 minutes!!!



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